Feeling Unappreciated or Unseen? 4 Steps to Boost Your Self-Worth
Imagine a world where every effort you make is noticed, every sacrifice appreciated, and your love celebrated. 🎉 As mothers, you’re the heartbeat of your home, often working tirelessly without pause for thanks or recognition. In fact, according to Pew Research Center, a staggering 70% of mothers often feel underappreciated, buried under household chores and emotional labour that often goes unnoticed. 😮
Today, let's rewrite this narrative with steps grounded in understanding, love and practicality, to help you feel the appreciation and value you so richly deserve (and secretly crave)! ✨
1. Celebrate Your Daily Wins 🥳
Each night, take a moment to acknowledge your achievements of the day, no matter how small. Perhaps you cooked a healthy meal for your family and you sat together to enjoy it, or you left work on time, or you replied to that email you'd been meaning to all week.
Recognising your own successes, even the mini ones, is a potent way to boost your mood and self-esteem, reminding you of your incredible capabilities. 🤩
2. Practice Gratitude with Purpose 🖊️📓
Every evening, jot down three things you're thankful for. This act of gratitude, proven by Harvard Health research, is more than a feel-good habit. It rewires your brain to focus on positivity, significantly boosting your mood, perspective, and overall sense of well-being. It could be as simple as a laugh with your child when you told them a silly joke, or enjoying a long-overdue chat with a friend while you travelled home from work. Noticing the small blessings in our day can change your entire outlook. 🌠
3. Foster Open Family Talk 👨👩👧
Encourage your kids and partner to open up by asking them what they feel is going well regarding their work/home or school/home life right now. Do they feel supported, or is something lacking that you can all cooperate to improve upon? This is your chance to speak up, in a non-accusatory tone, that you feel the efforts you make for your family seem to go unnoticed. Let them know that a little "thanks" now and again would really make you feel valued. 💝
According to the Journal of Family Psychology, this kind of open communication strengthens relationships by fostering a culture of mutual respect and appreciation. It creates a space where everyone, including you, feels heard and valued.
4. Connect and Share with Your Mum-Friends 👐
Engage in heartfelt talks with other mums in your circle, or even online forums if that feels more comfortable for you. Open up about the nitty gritty of daily mum-life - from managing tantrums to juggling work and home life. The American Psychological Association notes that about 80% of mothers find immense relief and support through peer interactions. Peer chats provide a safe haven to vent, share tips and gain invaluable advice - absolute gold in terms of reducing feelings of isolation and stress. 🙏
Tonight's Step: 🌙✨
So tonight, start by reflecting on one thing you did well today and three things you’re grateful for. And let your family know how much they mean to you... sometimes you might be the one who has to lead by example, but know that each time you do so, it opens up the opportunity for others to hear your feelings, too!
Know that you are doing an amazing job, - and that these small steps will make a big difference in how YOU recognise, and receive back validation of your immense value. 💖
If you would like support in establishing new empowering beliefs and taking action aligned with your life goals, feel free to 📲 book a complimentary call with me here. It would be my pleasure to support you!
Best wishes,
Kristin xo
